Right, so I'm back after a two month sabbatical of sorts. Actually I've been sort of pretending to work hard, which takes up most of my time. After all, acting busy is no easy feat. You know, it's so ironic that I'm such a dynamic person, but I'm still confined to a desk job. But luckily, I have the solution for my dilemma----contemplation. Yes friends, I can spend hours in contemplation, in a dream world far away from reality. I like to create my own reality. When I'm contemplating, the look on my face might give the impression that I'm solving a world problem or something, but more often than not, I'm simply imagining a crazy lovemaking session. It's something to do with being a piscean. We kinda border on eccentricity, if not cross it. But that apart, I do wonder what our purpose in life is, in terms of relationships. Wondered actually. I have the answer, which will help solve your relationship issues, if you have any.
I quote God: 'Blessed are the self centered, for they shall truly know me'
Nothing could be closer to the truth than this statement. Straight from the horse's mouth. (Conversations with god, book 1); In case I get sued by the almighty for copyright!
All our lives we keep wondering about the 'significant other' in our lives. Whereas, the truth is that there is only one person who deserves your undivided attention, yourself. This is the divine dichotomy. The key to all relationships is self-focus. Focus on what you are doing, being, having, thinking.
Our obsession with other people's problems and activities is what causes relationships to fail. I don't imply not being there for someone, that one must always be. But my take on this issue can be explained by the old adage----God helps those who help themselves. How can you love another, if you cannot love and respect yourself? Only if you experience the love for yourself can you know what it truly feels to love another. It is then when you can love absolutely and unconditionally. I will continue on this in a bit but till then let this idea sink in. And let me know how much you do/do not relate to it. One advice: try looking at what I said at the spiritual level. I'm sure you'll will grasp the essence of it.
God bless you all
Rohan
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Hey roh..loved ur post..very much for me..i believe It is always the false that makes you suffer, the false desires and fears, the false values and ideas, the false relationships between people. I feel we shud Abandon the false and you are free of pain; truth makes happy, truth liberates. That’s the reason roh..i feel im only surrounded by true friends like u all…and my family too
Roh wen u said u were jus imagining or dreaming…I guess dats very important for all of us…even I strongly believed in dis.. u must have noticed me roh at times..im jus quite...Not to be able to stop thinking is a dreadful affliction, but we don't realize this because almost everyone is suffering from it, so it is considered normal.
I donno but this post really made me feel good…love u muahhh
"God helps those who help themselves"
This is so very ture Roh...
After reading this blog I feel that only a Piscean can u'stand another Piscean.. though I do not have that writing capability to express the feel that I am feeling right now, but for sure you have really made me think about ME.
Thanks yaa.. Thanks a ton..
Love you ;-)
Hi Rohan,
Very Well said indeed!
...I am pleasantly surprised at the depth of your thought process, esp. considering your age…not that I am not aware that every generation is more evolved then the previous one…and I am at least couple generations behind you!
While I completely agree with your ‘Parmarth se pehle swarth’ (& this is straight from the none other then our very own Indian mythology) philosophy, one may want to ‘optimize’ the range of ‘self indulgence’ before one goes on to become ‘self centred and then finally ‘selfish’. Now, this may be at the other end of the spectrum however, I can’t resist myself in quoting an old adage which I think may be relevant here that ‘access of everything is bad’. And considering that the genesis of every ‘action’ is a single ‘thought’ which turns in to a ‘dream’ then to words and finally manifests themselves in some kind of ‘action’ …though the degree of any action will vary depending on the intensity of the original ‘thought’. And that is why we find only a miniscule percentage of our ‘thoughts/ideas/dreams’ get converted in to real actions and bring desired results.
That said, (coming back to the current context of relationships) I also agree with you that most of the issues in any relationships happen (u’ll have to give me more credit for having lost more hair ) ‘coz of complete failure of communication. And invariably this happen because of the gap between one’s ‘self perception’ and ‘world’s perception’ about one. For e.g. I might think that I am very generous, open and progressive but the other people may think I am more practical, conventional and reserved. Now, whenever I will approach any relationship thru my ‘what world thinks about me’ stand point (esp. when there is a gap in the views) more often then not inadvertent misunderstanding are bound to occur.
So, I guess it is important to have an endeavour of taking the level of communication to higher levels from the current ones…and let me assure you that there is no limit there.
Very interesting topic…dunno if the above makes sense…would like to know your views.
Take care and god bless!
Prashant
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